Counseling for Partners of First Responders
You’re here because you’re struggling with life as the spouse of a first-responder.
I bet that was hard to even admit to yourself. You probably felt some guilt and shame because your spouse faces extreme circumstances every day at work.
Yet, you’re facing challenges of your own, too. Challenges that are unique to the First Responder family.
You want a fulfilling life and strong marriage, but deep down, you know fear, stress,
resentment, and loneliness hold you back from having all of that.
You’re exhausted from doing it all alone. You live in constant fear of that middle-of-the-night phone call. You long for a “normal” family. Your partner is stressed and moody and that sets you and your kids on edge.
I have good news: I help clients with those same challenges every single day. And If
you work with me, you will:
- Alleviate the pressure you put on yourself to have a family that looks like
- Confidently cope with the stress and trauma that come with this lifestyle
- Feel more connected to your partner and learn how to best support them while
also taking care of yourself
- Have more energy for your kids
- Be grounded and in control of your life
- Feel revitalized and resilient
I bet you’ve gotten a lot of well-meaning advice from friends and loved-ones.
Maybe you got the message that you should just ‘suck it up’ because you ‘knew what
you were signing up for’ and this is just what life is with a First Responder spouse. Or
maybe they just look at you like you’re crazy for choosing this lifestyle at all. So you
sucked it up.
But when sucking it up didn’t seem to be working, maybe you were told or you thought
“Well, it just takes time. Maybe things will get better after this season.”
And then when time’s passing didn’t seem to be making things any better, you started to
shut down or withdraw or maybe you threw yourself into your kids’ lives or your own
And that MAY seem like it works, you may be able to distract, or numb, or
compartmentalize the pain…and you think you’re doing okay…and yet you find yourself
unable to shake this longing for things to be better in your relationship. And maybe you
find yourself unhappy in your relationship with yourSELF, too.
And then one day, another missed event or holiday spent without your spouse brings it
Maybe you’ve been struggling like this for months…
or maybe it’s been going on for years..with all of the pain buried and hidden, but here’s
IT’S STILL ALL RIGHT THERE. Lurking beneath the surface and holding you back from
everything you want.
So, instead of burying your emotions, what you actually need to do is simple: you
need to finally take charge of your own wellness and learn how to handle the stressors
of this lifestyle.
But knowing what to do and how to do it are two different things.
You need a path, a guide, and support.
That’s where I can help.
Together, we will:
1. Cultivate a resilience mindset which will allow you to face the unique challenges
of your situation head-on in a way that will make you proud of yourself
2. Learn to recognize early warning signs of stress both in yourself and your spouse
and symptoms of PTSD/Secondary PTSD
3. Utilize proven mind-body techniques that regulate your nervous system, calm the
stress response, and help you focus on things that are within your control.
I want you to have the same success that my clients have had. They give themselves grace. They’ve learned to quiet the judgmental voices in their heads. They’re able to calm their minds and bodies when stress shows up. They communicate better with their spouses and feel hopeful and energized.
Right now, you have a decision to make. You’re either going to remain lonely, exhausted, and constantly afraid or you can get the support you need to change your family’s story to one that is connected, hopeful, and whole.